destroy the idea that you have to be skinny and androgynous to be non-binary
Remember: just because you identify as non-binary doesn’t mean you have to aspire to be read as androgynous or genderless.
Link 1 <Personal & Body Care
Link 2 <Emotional & Psychological Closeness
Link 3 <Sleeping & Other Spacial Closeness
Link 4 <Life Arrangements
Link 5 <Urgent Situations
this is way too cool
Emotion porn, for those of us who need it more than actual sex.
An asexual and pansexual become room-mates and have wacky adventures
The show is called ‘All or Nothing’
Plot twist: the asexual is really super outgoing and is a huge flirt while the pansexual is extremely socially awkward and has trouble ordering coffee let alone getting a date.
my hand slipped
so that’s cool.
this is my imperfect not-a-fluent-signer understanding but:
(based on a presentation by a deaf trans guy i was at in 2005 where he was promoting that sign)
it seems like that sign was invented and implemented by trans people over the last 10-ish years. before that the predominant vocabulary was “sex change” and then some deaf trans people were like “yo fuck that” and came up with the current sign, which starts off with the sign for “myself,” then motion that indicates both change and coming together, and ends with the closed hand held against the sternum.
and in the process it also mimics the sign for “beautiful”
and because of spatial grammar, things closer to the front of your body in ASL are generally more vital, more emphatic, more immediate, more present.
so it’s actually a case where the word coherently indicates “beauty” and “self transformation” and contains hints of the complete thought of “my self transforming, through a coming together of disparate factors, into something more real, immediate, and vital than I was before.”
so yeah. that’s just fuckin’ awesome.
and that’s just the way to express that concept now.
I saw this post by bi-privilege and I whole-heartedly agree with the notion that this is a preferable term or at least a good alternative to the LGTBQIAP+ acronym.
No more people complaining about “how many letters are we gonna add”, no more groups getting forgotten because someone is too lazy to type out the entire acronym, and to me it has a more inclusive and equal feeling for all included groups.
Plus, as punkrockluna pointed out, MOGAI could also be used as an adjective replacing the word “queer”. Queer is being used by a lot of people within the community but we should not forget that it is also a slur and not everyone is comfortable with being labeled or even labeling themselves as such.
I would absolutely love it if we could make this a thing.
(I really really hope I didn’t forget anyone in the little description, please tell me if I have)
Re signal boosting
I’ve been using QUILTBAG but it leaves people out too (mostly it had the advantage of being pronounceable). I don’t really like the look of MOGAI (looks like mogwai), but it’s such a better term I’ll just make myself get over it. And there’s not way people can use it to include kinksters (I’m saying that as a kinkster and aro/ace/multisexual person - BDSM practitioners, y’all are not oppressed and your experiences are not equivalent, so shut up)
Ohhh eff now every time I look at this I’m going to think of the movie Gremlins
wingedtyger why would you do this to me
Don’t feed MOGAI people after midnight I guess
LOL. Not my fault!
Why are you eating after midnight anyway? You should be in bed (unless you work night shift or something, in which case midnight isn’t midnight for you or something…)
Mogwais are cute, at least? I dunno.
LOL fair enough! Normally I am asleep after midnight. But sometimes on the weekend I have to have that post-midnight snack.
Mogwai are definitely cute. That is a plus.
If you’re not watching Sirens on Thursday nights at 10pm on USA, then you’re missing out. Not only is it one of the funniest shows out there right now — being that it’s co-created and executive produced by Denis Leary — but it’s also highly inclusive.
It centers on a team of Chicago EMTs, and focuses on the odd partnership of three men, Brian, who is the new guy, Johnny, a guy with a slow developing emotional range, and Hank, an African-American homosexual who defies all stereotypes the rest of popular media inflicts upon gay men. Their team is fleshed out in Cash, Voodoo, and Stats. And last night’s episode showed that Voodoo is asexual.
It took Brian from confusion and denail, to attempts to understand, and eventually wrapped it all around in a bow of acceptance. Brian went from the ideology that asexuals “just haven’t had proper sex,” to wanting to understand what asexual means — and failing — and finally all the way to realizing that sex isn’t what defines relationships, and that just being around Voodoo is enough for him.
Do yourselves a favor, and catch up on the episodes, and start tuning in Thursdays at 10.